Torn between two friends?

Question by D: Torn between two friends?
I’m roommates with my best friend since 8th grade right now. Lately, I’ve been equally hanging out with a newer friend who just happens to be gay. My gay friend and I get along great by doing creative stuff like making movies and stories while my roommate/best friend and I do more leisurely things like video games and going to the gym. I love them both, but I have a feeling that my roommate and I are drifting away from each other solely on the fact that I am frequently hanging out with a gay guy (me and my roommate are both straight). He’s very anti-gay and although he has never directed told me this, I can see in the back of his mind that he has a big problem with me hanging out with my gay friend and could possibly assume that I’m becoming gay as well. It’s very stressful and heartbreaking to see him look at me like that.

I know, I know, my roommate needs to be more accepting and open minded in this day and age, but I’m not one to change viewpoints or personalities and I doubt my roommate will be changing his any time soon.

So, I’m at a crossroads now. Should I break off my friendship with my gay friend so I can regain my best friend’s faith/respect? I really don’t want it to come to this, but I’m running out of ideas….and I’m losing sleep over this.

Best answer:

Answer by RedRabbit
Don’t break off your friendship with your gay friend. He sounds like a better friend. I think that if the other guy can’t accept that, then both of you need to go your separate ways. If you break your friendship with the gay guy, you will let the other one win with his views and you will be no better than all of the gay bashers.

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