Q&A: Girlfriend and kissing question!!!?
Question by Curtis S: Girlfriend and kissing question!!!?
sorry its so long and for all the errors. please help if you can thanks
My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 4 months, we’ve just really started I guess what you would call making out. The other day we were at the park we got really close and we started kissing, normally when I kiss her I would have my hands at my side or holding hers, I’ve just started putting them on her back. We kissed I thought I felt her tongue in ( I know I did) I put mine slowly kinda copying her. After that she started talking, I always listen to what she has to say, but it was all I don’t want this to be all we do (kissing). this can lead to other things, she said that 10 times to me on the walking trail. The way she was talking to me it was like we have been doing it to much. So I was thats okay its fine, I like kissing her but if she felt that way I would back off, you know no problem.
Later on we were back at her house I was trying to teach her how to slow dance. We were close again, all the signals she gave out was for me to kiss her, I was right she wanted to again. She didn’t back away I was hasatite to do it because of what happend earlier I was backing off. I gave in then the last kiss, it was frenched ( that was amazing best kiss I’ve ever had), I’ll it admit I inched my way in on that one but once I was in she took control. I like had my breathe about sucked out of me. After she started talking about it, she started talking about the way we did it. how it can lead to other things, how she has morals. I was like okay I didn’t mean to do something you didn’t want to do, she didnt back away though thats whats confusing. I’m not mad. I’ll respect what she wants. It made me feel like she was saying I had no morals. I do Im waiting for marrige. She kept saying the same thing over and over again. I kept saying its okay. We don’t have to do that. I thought she wanted to she certanly didn’t back away. She also kept asking if I was mad at her, she said most guys would get mad and break up if a girl said that, I felt like hey you should at least know that much about me that I’m not like that. She said I was the instagatior, why did she do it back, why didn’t she push me away. I didn’t shove my tonge down her throat, I was very slow and coutious. When we kiss I don’t just walk in trying to get one in every time I’m with her, it just happens little momments like when I was trying to teach her to dance where we are so close and she looks into my eyes and its bascily a come on kiss me already dummy. It just made me feel bad like I’m a bad person or something like I didn’t have any morals, I’m trying to understand her thinking. If it would have been the other way around I would not have done it back I would have backed off. Then later on I wouldn’t have been giving me the same signals. When I left I giver her my good night hug, I was very hasitate on the kiss, she made her kiss face I leaned in, is it becasue I leaned is that why she would call me the instagotor if thats the case im not going to do it till she leans in.
sorry this is so long thanks for reading if you made it this far, any insight would be great on this thanks, yes I’m making mountains out of mole hills. As far as sex goes, thats not what I’m wanting to do, one day when I get married not now. when we cuddle up during a movie I let her put my hands and arms where she wants them. I like holding her hands, hugging , I enjoy kissing, those are wonderful things.
I’m 20, Shes 18, shes my first real gf, im not her first bf though, not that thats a problem just saying. She got on this kick about she posted this (i have morals and i’m not ashamed of them; and i will not compromise my beliefs for anyone!) and thats fine I have mine to. I never said anything about her beliefs or morals, I would never ask her to “compromise them as she put it”. Because really we’re the same there. I know I need to talk to her just trying to get my head right.
Best answer:
Answer by Katie
tell her thats not wat ur wanting. tell her that kissing can lead somewhere but that it doesnt have to if u guys arent ready or wiling to go farther. she sounds confusing tho
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