Is telling white lies okay in a relationship?

Question by Mary: Is telling white lies okay in a relationship?
My fiance and I were watching a movie together that he bought recently. He raved about this movie to me months ago. He said the he saw it in a city, he named the city and then he said in a movie theater. I remember him telling me he never liked to go to movies, that they were a waste of time. Of course, I put it together that he must have seen this movie with his ex-girlfriend, the one he was sooo deeply in love with before she dumped him. Well,l he finally bought the movie and after wards he said you know I saw this movie on the cruise ship. I said, Oh really and with your folks? He went on a cruise to spend some time with his parents a year before I met him. He, said Oh, no, this movie is about dying and I would never want my folks to watch that since they are up there in years. He said I was “alone” all alone watching the movie on the ship. He totally forgot what he had told me months ago. I just smiled and didn’t say anything. He called me his ex-girlfriends name so much in the beginning of our relationship that it was becoming an issue. I suppose he thought I might go off about it on him, which I wouldn’t have. I mean, we’ve watched movies together, I’m a movie buff, old movies that I have seen with past boyfriends and I never said anything like that. I just don’t bring it up. It’s just movies I’ve seen that I thought he might enjoy too. I don’t know why he couldn’t just tell me the truth and not make such a big production out of it and weave such a story. Just to make sure, I went through the cruise manuals the year he went and that movie was never shown on the ship.
You see I was going to ask his folks about the movie and that’s when he added about them being old and it wouldn’t be a movie they would have wanted see since it dealt with death.

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Answer by Rockit
Its not only ok, it is necessary.

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